Cunnilingus Tips – Expert’s Guide To Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus Tips - Expert's Guide To Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on women and is greatly satisfying for most women. So if you haven't perfected your oral sex technique, you're most likely going to have some cunnilingus performance anxiety. But when cunnilingus is performed well, it will impress you to a partner like nothing else can. So whether you're a seasoned cunnilingus expert or are a beginner, here are a few oral sex tips to improve your cunnilingus technique. Start off by finding a comfortable position, as this will help with stamina as well as your own personal pleasure. Firstly try licking her like an ice cream cone. Use some big soft licks with a wide flat tongue to stimulate all the nerves in the genital area. Go slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert being savoured, then you can speed it up a bit while focusing more on the clitoris. This will help to push her towards orgasm. It's important to build up the intensity level gradually and once you're into it, try to use your whole face to bury yourself in the vagina area. Get your tongue in as far as you can, or use your nose for more added pressure. Not only does this feel good, it lets her know you are really into the taste and sensations.Overview
- Get comfortable and enjoy the moment
- Use your tongue, fingers and adult products to spice things up
- Try flavoured lubricants if you don't like the taste
- Use personal wipes beforehand for a fresh taste
- Try different positions and communicate
- Keep a rhythm to stimulate
- Get your whole face into it to create pressure
- Experiment and keep an open mind
What’s The ULTIMATE Stress Reliever? SEX!
We all know life can get real busy. Kids, work, home, social life. When exactly can you take a moment for yourself? Believe it or not, sex is an ultimate reliever of stress. This can be on your own or with a partner. No one has ever said you absolutely need someone to be able to reach an orgasm. So whether you are coupled up or flying solo. Have sex, have a whole heap of it. Well as much as you can handle that is. Have you ever felt stressed in the middle of a climax? Yeah me neither.
Healthy living, Can be a little difficult to get to the gym every day. Just trying to do any type of physical activity to keep healthy and active these days can be difficult. Well having a little bedroom Olympics can get that heart pumping. And depending on your abilities and pure desire you can actually burn upwards of 200 calories in a 30 minutes romp session.
Make it a little interesting and shift things up a bit. Move into different positions. Integrating the different positions will get those muscles moving. Sexual intercourse is one of the BEST workouts you can put your body through. What’s even better is the big “O” that you get rewarded for your hard work. You’re doing your body the ultimate act of kindness.
No one likes to hear the word “moderation” but thankfully this word is not usually associated to the tumble, rumble in the bedroom. Health professionals will never endorse a lifestyle of never ending booze, party poppers and greasy burgers to try and mask your stress. But no one ever said a good cardiovascular workout between the sheets was out of the question. Healthy sex is actually quite good for your heart. Obviously, if you do have a heart condition then we would suggest you get the ok from the doctor before engaging in super charged sex-ercise.
Sex is not only a euphoric feeling. It actually can help relax the circulatory, respiratory and nervous systems in the body. It can help lower blood pressure (and let’s face it, who doesn’t have an increase in their blood pressure after the stresses of the day). Your heart will thank you for it. During sex your body releases hormones that will have a domino effect in your body.
Some will be released immediately, whilst others will have more of a slow drip release into the body before, during and after orgasm. This will differ between male and females. (as if we didn’t need to be any more different!) Men and woman will both release serotonin and endorphins. Men will get more dopamine. This is the addictive hormone for you guys. (it’s your body’s own personal drug – but the good kind).
Ladies you will find you will get a quick release of Oxytocin. Guys you also get this, however by the time your body feels it you will most likely be well into sleepy land thanks to the release of Prolactin. After orgasm ladies you will find you will have a lower, more even resting heart rate. As much as we also need emotional support from our partners, it doesn’t quite have that same result like sex gives us. Our bodies crave that physical connection.
Sex (& orgasms) can help improve our overall temperament. If you find yourself with anxiety it can help fight that by restricting the signals that fire off your brain causing the anxiety. Mood swings can be improved with that afterglow (and yes you actually do have a glow – caused by the flush of blood under your skin that’s a natural part of the arousal process. Which in turn can help improve your overall motivation. No wonder you have a more positive outlook on things after sex!
Sex is beneficial in many ways especially in regards to your health & wellbeing. As if the big 'O' wasn't motivation enough to get active in the bedroom, sex has so many other benefits. So get between the sheets. Have fun. Who knew a little loving could boost your overall health in such a surprising way.
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Low Libido
Low Libido Why is it that some woman lose their sex drive?
A Low Libido in a woman at any age can be extremely frustrating. But what you need to keep in mind, is the there could be a number of factors leading to it. The main sexual complaint with men is erectile dysfunction, which can be eased with popping a pill. When women have a hampered sex drive there can be a combination mental and physical factors contributing to the problem. Women’s sexuality does tend to be multifaceted and at times a little complicated… Go figure… What can these factors include you ask? Well for starters – Stress. If you are stressed, your body will operate differently. Maybe you might notice you are functioning less efficiently. Stop, Listen to what your body is saying. Are you anxious, or stressed about any of your daily routine. Has something changed to put your whole routine out? Working long days can most definitely leave you drained both mentally and physically, which will then in turn effect your libido. Do you have a low body image? Have you not been able to be as active as you used to be. Believe it or not, exercise helps all those sexual endorphins. If you keep active, you not only feel good, you help increase your stamina, improve your body image, and lift your mood. It’s all those little things that add up. If you can effectively remove or even reduce any of these factors you may just find that oh so sensitive loco - libido return to you. Hormones – I can confidently say there’s probably not a single woman reading this that doesn’t know what I’m talking about. Woman are a cesspool of hormonal emotions, and they can hit us any which way.Have you recently become pregnant or are you breast feeding? Our hormones can change so much during this time, that can inadvertently put a damper on the sex drive. This is ok! Let your body do its thing.Maybe you’re going through the opposite end of this scale and find yourself going through menopause. Estrogen levels will drop during the transition of menopause. This can lower your sex drive as well as cause vaginal dryness which can then make sex painful and uncomfortable. To help make sure you use a good quality natural lubricant to help with having satisfying sex. Just remember that medication can also affect the body. If you are on medication and find it could be diminishing your libido, then have a conversation with your doctor. It’s important to understand the effects certain things can have on your body when it comes to your health and to get a better understanding when it comes with dealing with a low libido.
low libido woman lose sex drive
low libido woman lose sex drive
Prostate Cancer Prevention
Prostate Cancer Prevention
Prostate Cancer…. A terrifying reality for a lot of males. The thought of developing prostate cancer is not something that you should let play on your mind. Especially when you can take preventative steps in the comfort of your own bedroom. Prostate cancer is one of the slower growing cancers, and on average affects more males over the age of 50. However, we are seeing males a lot younger than 50 develop it and affect them much more aggressively. To put it into perspective in Australia alone there is around 20,000 new cases of prostate cancer diagnosed each year. That’s basically one in every nine men will develop this cancer in their lifetime. Scary thought hey? Let’s be real, a diagnosis of Prostate cancer for many men can be utterly frightening, not only because of the threat of their lives but also the threat of their sexual function. However, if the cancer is detected in the early stages (this is why, it is imperative that you get checked regularly), if it’s still in the Prostate gland, there is a much higher chance of successful treatment with the added bonus of minimal short-term side effects. The treatment of cancer that has spread beyond the prostate is when it becomes much more difficult for success.The power of Prostate Massage
So, what can you do? Prostate massage. Yes this is a thing. And the great thing is it can actually reduce your risk of prostate cancer! The prostate is a part of the man that when stimulated provides pleasurable sensations. You know how the g-spot on a female works. Well guys, this is your sacred spot. So not only is prostate massage a healthy activity it is also a very enjoyable one also. During the massage, the prostate is stimulated both on the outside against the perineum and also on the inside through your rectum. Applying pressure to these areas helps achieve good results. Ah the rectum, that taboo spot a lot of males still find a little awkward in venturing into. We get it. But it really is doing your health wonders by exploring it. And this is also why we have prostate stimulators (the vibrating variety in particular are very popular) to help with men who want to do the massaging themselves or with their partner. Using it with your partner is another level of intimacy and trust. Adds even more to the experience. Other added bonuses of prostate massage is that it helps to treat erectile dysfunction. Many men have found it effective in producing more potent ejaculations.Frequent ejaculation
Frequent ejaculation in some studies has shown that it has reduced the risk of cancer. Example being in a study of men in their 20s who reported ejaculating at least 21 times per month were actually 19% less likely to develop prostate cancer then those who ejaculated 7 times per month or less. And it’s not just the younger ages – frequent ejaculation is men during those naughty 40s also appeared to reduce the risk of prostate cancer by 22%! So really ejaculating more often is doing your health wonders. A prostate massage at least once a month is a great start to leading the way to a healthy sexual routine and a healthy functional prostate. And to be honest, any men with a swollen prostate could really make use of a prostate massage at least once a week to help reduce the swelling, as well as improve urinary function and ones sexual performance.
Top Sex Tips for Men
Top Sex Tips for Men
Believe it or not great lovers are made, not born. It takes effort, time and patience. Woman aren’t the easiest creatures to understand on the planet, believe me I know. I am one, and sometimes I don’t even understand myself. So it can be tricky to get an understanding of what works best for us in the bedroom. And regardless of how expert you believe you may be – I’m telling you now, it can be improved. But don’t stress, we will share a few great tips with you here.1) The power of kisses
Now I’m not meaning go in mouth wide open and eat her face off. Stop it. No one enjoys that. No I mean, remember the good ole days back in high school where you would make out for hours and hours – and that would be the whole point of it. I mean that. Do that. Believe it or not the way you and your partner kiss can say a lot about the connectedness you guys have. My advice – take it slow, taste her. Take the time to really enjoy each other in the most simple non complex but beautiful way. Feel her lips, press your body into hers, hold her, smell her hair. Just take your time. That is what I mean.
2) Extend Foreplay – by A LOT
Foreplay is not a quick rub down there and she’s good to go. Nope just nope. Male and females are very different when it comes to foreplay. For one a females sexual energy begins in the extremities and works its way towards the genitals. Basically I’m just saying in a bit of a fancier way that females take longer to warm up. Guys if you do take the time to “warm” her up the rewards will be amazing. And honestly it doesn’t take a lot. Massage oils, give her a sensual body massage.
Work your hands all over her body but as you get closer to her genital area slowly move away, believe me the anticipation will definitely build up. Maybe try light kisses up her body, gently around her neck and ears – all erogenous zones of the female body. By extending the time on foreplay, you will both have more time to build up into the moment therefore giving a higher possibility to achieve more powerful orgasms and maybe even multiple orgasms. Now really what’s not to love about that?
3) The “other” form of foreplay
You’re probably asking – “what there’s another form of foreplay?” - why yes there is. I’m talking about those common household chores that can sometimes build up. You know, those ones that you hear her get a little annoyed with. The laundry, the dishes, vac the floor, hell even make the bed. It’s really hard for women to focus and turn off their minds if they are surrounded by those pesky household chores.
So fellas – honor yourself, and honor your relationship and help remove those mental road blocks from her mind as much as you can. Pick up/fold the laundry, vacuum, wash those dishes, take out the rubbish! She’ll be very appreciative. Very……
4) The power of words
Dirty talk. It’s not just hot for you guys but us women don’t mind it too. But please don’t be corny with it. Dirty talk can be hot, real hot – but do it right. Before sex – tell her what you want to do to her. What you want them to do to you. During sex – tell her what feels so good to you in that moment. After sex – tell her what you loved about the experience you guys just shared. We all like a little praise, especially with something as personal as that.
5) Chill down on the porn!
Now don’t freak at this. I don’t mean completely stop. Some ladies actually do like to watch it along with you. I just mean stop watching so…much….of…..it. Studies have actually proven that watching even a moderate amount can mess with one’s mind (and your ability to perform sexually, cough, cough…) You know when your browsing through a porn, you will actually scroll on through the different scenes in one single viewing session – well guys this causes your mind to create a habit of wanting arousal addiction which means your mind wants constant variety.
Not real great when you’re in the midst of a session with your one partner (and you can’t actually click her through to another person). You will actually find your mind under stimulated and it can be a common cause for men (of ALL ages) to suffer a little erectile dysfunction because of it. Basically, Shorten those porn sessions guys. You’ll enjoy much stronger erections because of it.
6) Make some noise
You guys enjoy it when you can hear her having a great time during those hot and steamy sessions. Well us ladies also like to hear that you to are also enjoying yourself. I think the biggest complaint of had from females is that they find their partner to quiet in the sack. This is not the time to be quiet. Your partner will appreciate it if you moan, grunt, growl (in a non creepy way) or dirty talk more in bed. We like to know your enjoying yourself. It’s a big turn on for us.
7) Try sex in different locations
Sex doesn’t have to be reserved only for just the bedroom. Use your imagination. Sex in the shower (Naughty but Nice online also has show sex toys specifically available to help make this easier), how about in the bathroom whilst your both getting ready in the morning, in the car (and yes the car can even just be parked in your garage still) Really the options are endless. Use your imagination. But also stay a little cautious. No one wants to find themselves on the wrong side of the law for public nudity…. Although would make a great story.
Have a date night – maybe even book a night away in a hotel (especially good if you have children at home) what’s not to love about a night out, a night of uninterrupted passion where you can just wake up, and leave. And for those friskier ideas, how about pulling your partners pants down whilst she’s doing the dishes or prepping food and go down on her right there at the kitchen bench. Do with that bit inspiration what you wish….
8) Go down, down
Oral sex isn’t just for the boys. I think a lot of males see oral sex as a brief pit stop instead of a major destination in itself. So let’s face it. A lot of you haven’t really taken the time to master your skills and work on your energy in perfecting that tongue disco. In a way this is not all bad news for you. Because now if you actually put in a little effort into your approach and technique, then I have no doubt you’ll set yourself way ahead of the rest of the pack.
Not all women are the same (not really a shock though) so yes what made one lady clawing the back of your head at might not really do the same to another. The trick here is to settle in, get comfortable, take your time and listen out for those tell tale signs of what she likes when her body responds in the moment. Don’t rush it. Trust me when I say by the time you are through, she'll be all kinds of blissed out, doe-eyed, looking at you like you’re an absolute rock star.
9) Touch and Play
Touch your partner throughout the day. You know, grab their butt, when she walks by – give it a fun tap here and there. When your laying on the couch watching a movie – stroke your fingers gently through her hair. Nibble gently on her neck, or when you kiss her, kiss her like you mean it. Touch is such a strong sense. And relationships that have a high touch count are relationships that truly go the distance. That physical contact keeps that sexual simmer going throughout the whole entire day. It really makes your entire relationship an act of foreplay.
10) Share your Fantasies and Kinks!
Guys are always asking us ladies what our fantasies are so the same goes with you. Do you know what your ultimate sexual life would be? If so, share it with your other half. Be open and honest. Open communication in any relationship is extremely important for it to be successful. Regardless of how connected you feel you are, they aren’t mind readers. So the only way they’ll know is if you tell them. This means having an open and honest discussion of what you like (or what you don’t) and what you wouldn’t mind trying in the future.
You’d be surprised at how open they might actually be to fulfilling those desires. As for kinks – this doesn’t just mean BDSM, and sex in dungeons. This is a simple as a blindfold, light biting, some hair pulling, spanking and maybe even a little choking. See what you both like. Again, You might be surprised.
11) Have a bedside tool kit!
I’m meaning the fun kind of tool kit! This is also something you can do together. Massage oils, lubricants (from flavored to long lasting), wrist restraints, blindfold, to a little vibrating bullet. The options are endless but the point is to start somewhere. Honestly, depending how you use these fun tools, they can help amplify orgasms, increase closeness between you and your partner and just add a little thrill to your bedroom routine. And we have all for you here! What’s not to love about that…. Cunnilingus Tips – Expert’s Guide To Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on women and is greatly satisfying for most women. So if you haven't perfected your oral sex technique, you're most likely going to have some cunnilingus performance anxiety. But when cunnilingus is performed well, it will impress you to a partner like nothing else can.
So whether you're a seasoned cunnilingus expert or are a beginner, here are a few oral sex tips to improve your cunnilingus technique. Start off by finding a comfortable position, as this will help with stamina as well as your own personal pleasure. Firstly try licking her like an ice cream cone. Use some big soft licks with a wide flat tongue to stimulate all the nerves in the genital area.
Go slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert being savoured, then you can speed it up a bit while focusing more on the clitoris. This will help to push her towards orgasm. It's important to build up the intensity level gradually and once you're into it, try to use your whole face to bury yourself in the vagina area. Get your tongue in as far as you can, or use your nose for more added pressure. Not only does this feel good, it lets her know you are really into the taste and sensations.
Overview
- Get comfortable and enjoy the moment
- Use your tongue, fingers and adult products to spice things up
- Try flavoured lubricants if you don't like the taste
- Use personal wipes beforehand for a fresh taste
- Try different positions and communicate
- Keep a rhythm to stimulate
- Get your whole face into it to create pressure
- Experiment and keep an open mind
Naughty But Nice believes that if your eyebrows aren't sticky, then you're not doing it right! You can also insert fingers in her vagina while licking the clit. As your tongue licks up pull down with your fingers so that you get a rhythm going.
Rev things up even more by slipping a G-spot vibrating adult toy into her while you're going down on her. She will love it! You can also use this vibrating adult toy under your chin, to give your mouth that wonderful vibrational feeling! If lying back during cunnilingus is too inactive for her, then simply let her hop on top. From there she can control the pressure and area of contact.
To make this position even more fun, use some basic bondage gear adult toys and get tied down to the bed before she starts. Just licking up and down means that chances are that it will get boring for both parties involved. So it's a good idea to vary your movements, use your lips, sex toys and flavoured lube in addition to your tongue. Gentle suction is a nice variation on the licks and lick it while maintaining the suction.
Also change positions, and use your hands. If you really want to give something special, you can enjoy her anus by using a dental dam to protect your mouth. The sky's the limits, so remember to get your whole creative mind involved.
Most women orgasm in response to rhythmic stimulation, so if you're in a groove that is building her up, don't suddenly change what you're doing. Finding the balance between variety and consistency is the art to being an oral sex expert. The juicier your make it, the better it feels. Experiment with edible lubricant or maybe some lubricants that warms when you blow on it. For gentle, hygienic cleansing before hand, you might like to try some personal wipes to keep things tasting fresh.
Cunnilingus is an age old favourite for couples wanting to create close intimacy and vaginal stimulation in a interesting and sexy new way. If you follow the tips provided and introduce some sex toys or adult products, you'll soon be teasing and pleasing her into orgasmic pleasure in no time at all!
Top Sex Tips for Women
Top Sex Tips for Women
Sex… It never needs to be complicated but let’s face it, men and women are chalk and cheese. And sometimes understanding what the other sex desires is not always as easy as it looks. Men themselves are complex creatures (and they say us women are difficult… pfff) but they are also simple in their needs and desires also. Always be as confident as you can. Being enthralled in your sexiness can help take their mind off their own insecurities (and believe me they have just as many insecurities as us women).1) Take control
Communication during sex is the ultimate key to great sex, and this does not mean “dirty talk” although that is also fun. We mean communicating on what you like or what you don’t. if you don’t like something then say it. It’s not doing anyone any favors if you don’t express how you do or don’t like something. Don’t rely on ambiguous gestures and noises. If you don’t like something, then guide them to how you would prefer it – sex is not the time to be shy. You want to try something in a different angle? Then say it. Generally, it’s expected that the guy be the dominant one in a sexual encounter. We say – why? Turn it around and you take over. Keep him on his toes (you’ll probably even see a little sparkle in his eye)2) Do your part
Let’s face it nothing is worse than a sexual partner who just lays there (like a dead fish). Get motivated, be into it! Its sex! It’s meant to be fun! If you’re just going to lay there then really you’re nothing better than a slightly warmer blow up doll. Look we get it, even Great sex can get a little bit monotonous so change it up – try sex in a new location. Maybe the lounge, in the car or even on the kitchen bench! Maybe try a little role play, or maybe something as sensual as taking a bath together.3) Fore – what? Foreplay!
Men need foreplay too! Yes you read that correctly. Think of it as an intro into the main event. And we don’t just mean a stroke here and a rub there. Mental Foreplay. This can start throughout the day. Little texts and messages throughout the day. Romance, seduction and every emotional aspect of sex works on men too. A lot of the fun in foreplay is in the mind – so have fun with it.4) Quality over Quantity
More sex doesn’t mean better sex! If you are concerned that you and your partner aren’t bonking like rabbits. Don’t. Most couples have sex once a week and it’s been found that the more energy you are putting into your regular weekly romp the better it is over the long haul. You may think that men want sex 100% of the time. Not the case. Don’t always wait for him to initiate. If you’re in the mood , and he’s not acting, then GO FOR IT. Dirty talk! The power of some sexy banter in the bedroom is seriously underplayed. Not the easiest thing for some woman to do without feeling like a fish out of water. Read an erotic novel and get ideas from there. So…many…naughty…innuendoes. And ladies – talk to your gal pals. You’d be surprised with the things some of them have stored in their dirty talk vault.5) Exercise & done skimp out on the D! (vitamin D!..)
Believe it or not, exercise is good for your sex drive. Exercise improves the circulation in your body, and this includes the blood to your genitals. This extra flow of blood increases your desire and lifts your mood. And really when did those endorphins ever really hurt anyone? And as for the vitamin D, we weren’t kidding about it being good for your sexual health. Too much sun can damage the skin (we have all heard the slip, slop, slap motto), vitamin D is essential for estrogen production in women and testosterone production in men. It boosts your libido. Have you ever noticed that you tend to feel on the friskier side during those summer months – well this is the reason why.6) Experiment & Kinks
Have you got a kink? You will need to tell them. Especially if it’s of the variety of liking a bit of choking around the neck, or maybe you like your hair pulled. These are things you need to voice as they aren’t likely to just go out on a limb and assume that’s your thing or whether doing so will put them in jail. If you want something, then just ask for it. (there’s that communication thing again…) Shopping for toys together can also be fun. (Naughty but Nice online has everything you need by the way – if you were wondering where to go). This could mean couple vibrators, to massage oils and flavored lubricants to blindfolds and handcuffs.7) They love how you taste down there!
So you haven’t had time to tame hairs on your legs, nor have you been able “freshen” up down there, and you don’t smell like you’ve walked through a field of bath bombs. Don’t stress! As long as you have the basic hygiene under control, it’s really not the be all to end all if you aren’t pristine at all times down there. A lot of women can get really self conscious about this – but don’t worry. Men actually love the way you taste down there. But while I’m on the talk of oral – don’t do it halfway. Men love also love the act of receiving and if you’re doing it half-assed or like it’s some kind of chore, he will sense this. Honestly ladies – try some flavored lubricants, You’ll be sucking like it’s your last dessert. Just remember males will be ultra sensitive down there after oral also. So be gentle ladies.8) Morning and Afternoon delight
Men and women handle the weekly life stresses differently and because of this, couples can sometimes feel a little mismatched. You aren’t alone. Men see sex as a stress reliever while women want to have sex after they’ve had time to unwind… See the issue here?! So an alternative is to have sex in the morning! (ignoring any morning breathe) A males testosterone levels peak in the morning. Another alternative is to have sex on the weekend in the afternoon. A little weekend afternoon delight! Women tend to ovulate in the afternoon, this means the optimal hormone level for female sexual desire is during this time. Don’t forget sex is a lot of cardio – so don’t be afraid to jump on top and take the reins for a bit – he will appreciate it. Lastly, don’t forget to pee after sex! It honestly surprises us how many women don’t understand the importance of doing this within 30min of having sex. UTI’s are real ladies!
Anal Sex Tips – The Ultimate Guide
For many people the concept of anal sex is not something that particularly interests them. This could be because of all the misconceptions that can be associated with anal sex. Maybe you think that only gay men enjoy anal sex or use anal sex toys? Maybe you believe it will hurt way too much to even contemplate? Maybe you’ve never even considered the anus as an erotic area? Or maybe you just have no idea on how to actually even do it! Well I’m here to tell you that anyone – whether it be gay, straight, men, woman or couples.
Everyone can enjoy the joys of anal sex play. Especially if it’s done right. If you talk to anyone that does practice this sex act you will most likely find that it in fact feels great!! You just have to get past those initial reservations. The anus is actually an area of your body that has an abundance of sensory nerve endings and pleasure points, which can lead to incredible orgasms. What’s not to love about that?!!
So Why Anal?
Well for men, anal penetration stimulates the prostate (male g-spot), which in doing so can result in deeper, more intense and longer lasting orgasms. In fact, guys you can have an orgasm and quite an intense orgasm at that from stimulation of the prostate gland alone! I bet a lot of you never even realised this... As for women, you have up to 8000 or so sensory nerve endings found in the clitoris that can reach as far as the anus. So as well as that shared connection of sensory nerves, a thin membrane is all the separates the vaginal cavity from the rectal cavity. Therefore, some women find that touching the anal area or using an anal toy is highly erotic and can lead to more intense orgasms.So what are the guidelines to Anal Sex?
For Anal play to be successful and enjoyable you really do need to follow some basic guidelines. This is so all parties involved get the most enjoyment possible from the experience.- Don’t try it if you don’t want to! Cannot stress this enough.
- Relax your body – maybe have a couple of drinks to help with this.
- Go SLOW! Rushing into it is never going to end well for anyone involved.
- Use a good quality “thicker” lube (Astroglide gel – available at naughty but nice online is our top pick here)
- Condoms are always a good idea. Safe sex guys!
- Listen to your body.
- Listen to your partner! Communication is key!
- Clean toys thoroughly with a proper adult toy cleaner (again available to you from Naughty But Nice online)
- NEVER switch an anal toy from the Anus to the vagina - Bacteria guys!!
Be prepared for poop!
Yeah we went there. If you’re going to go that back passage then be prepared for some poop. Whether it’s your first time or your 14th time, poop will make an entrance at some point of your Anal play. It’s Ok, it’s completely natural, it’s just part of the anus. You could keep some wipes handy for that quick clean up and save any potential embarrassment. Anal sex also opens you up to butt queefs. They’re not farts, no matter what anyone might say otherwise. They may go on for a little while as the air escapes. Just think of the positive – you are a human butt beatbox! Sex in general can be messy, so don’t make a big deal out of it. If you do then any future desires for anal play will go right out the window.Relax, Enjoy & be Safe!
Experiment with positions. You can lie flat on your stomach, get into doggie-style or do missionary. You can cause more unnecessary pain and discomfort if you use certain positions (that may allow for more deeper penetrations) before you are ready. If you decide on missionary, maybe for a beginner the receiver goes on top. Inserters who are inexperienced may find this position more relaxing and allows the receiver to have most of the control. Don’t worry about wanting to go slow and gently. You definitely aren’t being a buzz kill who’s squashing his porn dreams of pounding the shit out of a girls butt. Enjoy it. Getting the tip in hurts the most. The head of the penis is the widest part. Once you get through that and up to the shaft it’ll start to feel a lot better. Can you remember the first time you had sex and it hurt a little (well, for some of us) – a bit like that. Relax your PC muscles (pubococcygeus). Relaxing and constricting this muscle is like the anal version of doing kegels. You can worry about that one later one – right now focus on letting those butthole muscles go. Imagine you’re about to poop (you won’t, maybe....) Also, remember unlike the vagina, the anal canal and rectum are NOT self-lubricating so any form of anal penetration must have a lot of lubrication. Lubrication is the key to positive Anal sex play. It will make the whole experience easier, more pleasurable for both partners and going without out it can lead to anal tears. Spit will NOT cut it. Get the lube guys! And finally if you despise it, don’t do it again. If you hate it, you hate it – there is absolutely nothing wrong in that. But most of you might actually be surprised at how enjoyable it actually is and how unbelievably psychologically gratifying it was to watch your partners mind being blown away.