Experimenting with a vibrator can be fun and incredibly enjoyable. It will teach you not only what you enjoy in the bedroom on your own but also what you like while with a partner. First thing you should realise is that owning a vibrator is completely normal! If you at any point feel like its taboo to own one. Believe us when we say – It’s not! It’s not only normal but the variety out there is so big and vast that you have an array of options for you to choose from!
Get to know your vibrator
So you’ve picked out your vibrator. So how does it work? What does it do exactly? Firstly, you should get to know your new bedroom buddy. Play with the settings, see how it works, understand the different intensity settings it may have. You may even notice how pleasurable it feels just by having it vibrate in your hand. Play with it on yourself , so you know exactly how to use the vibrator for maximum pleasure. Find somewhere quiet, set the mood and relax!
Experiment – be a tease
Run the vibrator over your body in different erogenous zones. Pay attention to what areas feel the best. Take note that your neck is a great erogenous zone too, so take advantage of this. Lie back, close your eyes and run it gently along your neck. Feel how much pleasure comes just from that. In a way you are teasing yourself with your new vibrator. Once you start to feel the pleasure slowly make your way down – run it over your thighs, getting close to your clitoris but not quite touching it. Experiment and focus on what feels good for you without worrying about reaching orgasm. Remember it’s about enjoying the moment and remembering the journey. This is also great fun to do with a partner.
Partner up
There’s absolutely no reason why you can’t use your vibrator whilst with a partner. While making out press it against his perineum (that spot that between his anus and penis) then move it over yourself. You can also get him to use the vibrator on you while you get him off. Win, win situation really?! Try running the vibrator over your nipples whilst your partner is giving you oral sex. You’d be surprised at just how responsive your body will be to this.
Want to incorporate it in a with a little light BDSM? Get your partner to tie you up (safely of course!) and let them use the vibrator on you the way they want to. The loss of control will heighten your senses – try this with a blindfold too. There’s something exciting about not having control – You’ll be begging for more! Try it in different sexual positions. Doggie is great!
Have your partner penetrating you from behind while you run the vibrator over your sensuous parts. A vibrator is a great way to keep sex hot, especially for the women who struggle to reach orgasm by penetration alone (yes ladies you are NOT alone on this one, its more common then you realise – there is nothing wrong with you either) Experiment! You will soon learn what you personally enjoy the most!
Reaching the big O
You’ll notice as you use your vibrator (alone or with a partner) that your body will respond differently in different areas. It may feel to powerful in some areas whereas in others will be more pleasurable. This is completely normal. This is all part of the fun. The more aroused you start to feel you should bring the vibrator closer to your groin area and pay close attention to what works best for you.
As you move the vibrator closer to your clitoris take note of how it feels – if its irritable maybe turn the vibration down and hold it a little off the sensitive areas. A lot of woman actually find indirect contact on the clitoris much more arousing. Lightly run it up your labia , and circle your clitoris (even without even touching it). Once you feel the pressure build – go in for the kill!
It’s all a part of the fun
Vibrators play a vital role in our sexual discovery with not only ourselves but with our partners also. Hallelujah to that!!! It’s a simple thing to keep beside your bed so that you can quickly and easily grab it to add a little spice to your next adult play. Never feel guilty for wanting a little extra buzz – I’ve not read any rule that states that all sexual encounters must be two bodies only! If you listen to how your body responds in different areas using different techniques with your vibrator, reaching orgasm should be incredibly simple!
